About Rachel Sailer|
Relationship Therapist|
Denver Colorado
I'm Rachel
If that's you, you're not alone.
I believe healing begins with feeling safe enough to be yourself. Before we focus on changing anything, I want to get to know you—your story, your relationships, your experiences, and what matters most to you. My goal isn't to rush to solutions or simply teach coping skills. It's to create a space where you feel genuinely seen, understood, and supported as we make sense of your story together.
You don't have to have it all figured out before reaching out. I'd love to connect for a free 15 to 20-minute consultation, answer any questions you have, and see if we're a good fit.
If any of these patterns feel familiar, you’re in the right place. Together, We’ll explore how past experiences, trauma, attachment patterns, and your nervous system may be influencing the relationships you have today.
- Loneliness and disconnection
- Difficulty sitting with uncertainty
- Feeling "too much" or Feeling "not enough"
- Childhood wounds and attachment issues
- Non-Traditional Premarital questions and marriage preparation
- Difficulty accepting reassurance
- Trouble expressing needs
- Anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism
- Loss of identity in relationships
I'M HERE TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
My goal is to create a space where you feel comfortable showing up exactly as you are, without any pressure to have everything figured out.
Therapy with me isn’t about saying the “right” things or having it all figured out. We slow things down, get curious about what’s actually happening, and start to make sense of the patterns you’ve been feeling stuck in
We’ll look at what’s been repeating, what’s underneath it, and how it’s showing up for you right now, so you can start responding differently.
What Therapy with me Feels like
They taught me that our patterns usually make sense when we understand where they came from and that we don’t have to keep repeating them. As a therapist, I want to help you get curious about your own patterns, understand what’s underneath them, and build relationships where you can feel more secure, connected, and like yourself
I’VE BEEN THERE...
Many of my clients are the strong ones, the over-thinkers, the people pleasers, and the ones who look like they have it all together—but secretly, they're exhausted.
This Might Look Like:
- You overthink, overanalyze, and struggle to quiet your mind.
- You feel anxious, disconnected, or stuck in the same patterns.
- Relationships, dating, or conflict leave you feeling overwhelmed.
- You and your partner want to strengthen your relationship before or during marriage.
- Trauma or Past experiences continue to affect how you trust, connect, or communicate.
- You're tired of always being the strong one.
- You want healthier relationships—with yourself and the people you love.
WHo I Work WIth..
my Approach
Before we jump into changing anything, I want to get to know you.
That means building trust, creating a space where you don't feel judged, and helping you feel comfortable enough to be honest about what's really going on.
I know therapy can feel vulnerable, so I don't expect you to tell me everything on day one. We'll move at a pace that feels safe.
We'll explore things like:
- your relationships
- your family
- your childhood
- your emotional experiences
- the ways you've learned to cope
- what your nervous system has experienced
- what has shaped who you are today
I'll often share observations like,
- "I'm wondering if these two experiences might be connected."or "This actually makes a lot of sense given what you've been through."
- This is where I bring in psychoeducation, attachment theory, EMDR, IFS, neuroscience, and relational research.
- Not to overwhelm you with information… But to help you understand yourself, gain self-awareness with more compassion for yourself and your relationships.
Instead we can slow things down and ask:
- What am I feeling?
- What am I needing?
- Where did I learn this?
- Is this response still serving me today?
Together we'll begin experimenting with new ways of:
- communicating
- setting boundaries
- regulating emotions
- asking for needs
- responding during conflict
- relating to yourself
- relating to the people you love
What does "whole-person therapy" mean?
Looking at the Whole Picture
My background in both social work and marriage and family therapy means I'm trained to look beyond individual symptoms and consider the larger systems influencing your life.
That means we may explore things like:
- Your relationships and attachment patterns
- Your family history and life experiences
- Your nervous system and how your body responds to stress
- Daily habits like sleep, movement, nutrition, and rest
- Work, finances, and life stressors
- Community, support, and sense of belonging
- Medical or mental health factors that may be affecting how you feel
- Psycho-education on your brain
- Medication or Supplements or Holistic Options
Sometimes therapy is exactly what's needed. Other times, therapy works best alongside other supports. When appropriate, I can help you think through whether collaborating with other healthcare professionals or resources may be an important part of your healing journey.
Additional Trainings
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Education & Licensure
When I'm not in the therapy room, you can usually find me at Pilates, on a ski mountain, traveling somewhere new, exploring a hiking trail, trying a new recipe, or spending quality time with the people I love. I was born and raised in Colorado, so being outside has always felt like home. Whether I'm hiking, skiing, or simply soaking up the mountain views, nature is one of the places where I feel most grounded.
Before becoming a therapist, I had a creative background in photography and dance, which still shapes how I see the world today, with curiosity, presence, and attention to nuance.
I'm also an intimate wedding and elopement photographer, which might seem like a very different career—but to me, it isn't. Both photography and therapy are about connection, presence, and creating space for young adult to be fully themselves. One allows me to document some of life's most meaningful moments, while the other gives me the privilege of walking alongside people through some of life's most meaningful conversations.
Honestly, becoming a therapist wasn't a huge surprise. I've always been the person people trusted with their stories. Friends, family, coworkers, even people I'd just met, would often find themselves opening up about things they hadn't shared with anyone else. Listening & Curiosity has always felt like one of the most meaningful ways I know how to connect with others.
More than anything, I hope you experience me as a real person. Someone who will laugh with you, sit with you in the hard moments, celebrate your wins, and genuinely care about getting to know the person behind your story. My hope is that therapy feels like a place where you can exhale, feel understood, and know you don't have to navigate life alone.
My Friends & Family Know me as RAY
Licensure
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- University of Denver, Denver Bachelor of Arts in Psychology Neuroscience & Wellness
- University of Denver, Denver Graduate School of Social Work, Concentration in Mental Health (LSW)
- Denver Family Institute Post- Masters Degree
- Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate (MFTC)
- Licensed Social Worker (LSW)
Education
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- EMDR Basic Training & Certification (Parts I & II)
- Cultivating Attachment Consciousness in Couples Therapy
- PACE Attachment Training
- Circle of Security Attachment Training
- Attachment Nerd Training
- Trauma and Attachment Problems in Families: A Systemic Approach
- Crisis Intervention & Safety Training
- Intimate Partner Violence Assessment & Intervention Training
Additional Trainings
I warmly welcome clients of all identities, including LGBTQIA+ individuals, queer and nonbinary folks, and young adult from diverse backgrounds.
My work is rooted in respect, curiosity, and creating a space where you feel safe to be fully yourself.
A Space That Honors You
Openness & Vulnerability
Self-Awareness
Inclusivity & Humility
Authenticity
Safety & Connection
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Curiosity
Growth (Evolution)
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As a therapist, curiosity is at the heart of how I work. I don't believe in making assumptions or trying to fit your experiences into a box. Instead, I take time to get to know the whole picture of who you are. Through thoughtful questions, exploring your family history with tools like a genogram (family tree), and learning about your relationships, emotions, childhood, and life experiences, we'll begin connecting the dots together. Rather than me telling you who you are, my goal is to help you discover your own answers. I believe the more we understand your story, the more empowered you become to create meaningful change.
Curiosity
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As a therapist, I believe meaningful healing happens within safe relationships. My goal is to create a space where you feel accepted, understood, and supported enough to show up as your authentic self. Together, we'll build the trust and connection that allow healing to unfold naturally.
Safety & Connection
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As a therapist, I value showing up as a genuine, real person. I believe therapy is built on honest human connection, not perfection. My hope is that our work together encourages you to embrace your own authentic self with greater confidence, honesty, and self-compassion.
Authenticity
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As a therapist, I believe every person has inherent worth and deserves to be treated with dignity, respect, and compassion. While I bring clinical knowledge and experience, I don't believe my education or title makes me more important than you. Therapy is a collaborative relationship where we work together to better understand your experiences. I warmly welcome clients of all identities, including LGBTQIA+ individuals, queer and nonbinary folks, and people from diverse backgrounds. My goal is to create a space where you feel respected, valued, and safe enough to show up as your authentic self.
Inclusivity & Humility
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As a therapist, I believe self-awareness is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. That's why I value continually reflecting on my own experiences, biases, emotions, and patterns so I can show up with intention, authenticity, and humility in the therapy room. I also believe that lasting change begins with understanding ourselves. Together, we'll explore your emotions, relationships, and patterns with curiosity and compassion, helping you recognize what drives your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. As your awareness grows, you'll have the opportunity to respond more intentionally instead of reacting on autopilot, creating meaningful and lasting change
Self-Awareness
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As a therapist, I value creating an open and nonjudgmental space where you can show up exactly as you are. I believe vulnerability isn't a weakness—it's one of the bravest things we can do. You don't have to have everything figured out before starting therapy, and I never expect you to share more than you're ready for. Instead, we'll move at a pace that feels safe, allowing trust and openness to grow naturally. My hope is that our work together becomes a place where you feel seen, accepted, and supported as you explore your experiences with honesty and self-compassion.
Openness & Vulnerability
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As a therapist, I believe people have an incredible capacity to grow throughout every stage of life. Healing isn't about becoming someone different—it's about understanding yourself more deeply, creating new experiences, and building relationships that feel more secure, connected, and aligned with who you truly are. I also believe that growth doesn't stop once you become a therapist. That's why I'm committed to doing my own personal work through therapy, consultation, continuing education and learning, and self-reflection, and self-reflection. I believe my own commitment to growth allows me to show up with greater empathy, authenticity, and presence in our work together.
Growth (Evolution)
My Values
"I wholeheartedly recommend Rachel Sailer for couples, families, or individuals seeking therapy. She brings a rare combination of clinical skill, warmth, and authenticity to her practice. Her ability to create a safe, nonjudgmental space allows clients to explore difficult emotions while feeling genuinely supported and understood. You are in excellent hands with Rachel."
With Love From: Chloé
"HER ABILITY TO CREATE A SAFE, NONJUDGMENTAL SPACE ALLOWS CLIENTS TO EXPLORE DIFFICULT EMOTIONS WHILE FEELING GENUINELY SUPPORTED AND UNDERSTOOD."
"Rachel brings authenticity, dedication, and a genuine desire to help her clients into her clinical work. Her attachment and systemic-based approach helps clients heal and grow in a safe and well-informed space." -
With Love From: Sophie
"Ra"HER ATTACHMENT AND SYSTEMIC-BASED APPROACH HELPS CLIENTS HEAL AND GROW IN A SAFE AND WELL-INFORMED SPACE."
“Ra"Rachel is among the most dedicated and passionate clinicians I've had the pleasure of working with. She is constantly adding new knowledge and skills to her attachment-based approach, making her an adept therapist for couples, parents, and individuals."
With Love From: Jeremy
"SHE IS CONSTANTLY ADDING NEW KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS TO HER ATTACHMENT-BASED APPROACH, MAKING HER AN ADEPT THERAPIST FOR COUPLES, PARENTS, AND INDIVIDUALS."
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ABout me
- Favorite Movie: How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
- Comfort TV Show: Gilmore Girls & New Girl
- Favorite Colorado Mountain Town: Telluride
- Current Drink of Choice: Blood Orange Spindrift Sparkling Water
- Current Hyper-Fixation: Pinterest, thrifting, and homemade crafts
- Favorite Foods: Salmon, oysters, mussels, and tacos (yes, all equally!)
- Favorite Colors: butter yellow & forest green
- My Favorite season is summer.
Let me know if we have anything in common!
Beginning therapy can feel like a big step, but you don’t have to do it alone
Especially if you've never done it before or aren't sure where to begin. That's why I offer a free 15-minute consultation call where you can connect with a licensed relationship therapist, talk about what's bringing you to therapy, ask questions, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.